How To Change Your Life
I believe there are people who have spent more on self-help than me. Must be but I don't know them. Books, tapes, seminars, the whole gammut. Some of it was even useful. I'm about to save you thousands of dollars and tons of grief.
I'm going to tell you several secrets to changing any aspect of your life that you desire. But here's the real secret: none of this is a secret at all.
Your life is exactly how you made it.
Look at your home. It isn't a metaphor for who you are, it represent the physical embodiment of who you are. Everything about it, from the location to the color of the towells, came from you. Your life represents the sum of all the minute and grand decisions accumulated since your first breath.
Run your own brain
Too many people spend their lives at the mercy of whatever their minds throw at them. Once you decide that your mind is under your control you begin to find the answers you been searching for. This is a very good thing.The meaning is up to you
Three people witness the same event. One is disturbed for days. Another forgets it almost immediately. The last appreciates his family more. Why?Our days are full of experiences. The meaning that we apply to those experiences is up to us. This is also a very good thing.
Do-be-do-be-do
What you have is a reflection of the things you've done. What you've done with your life is a reflection of who you are.Who hasn't gotten this backwards? "If only I HAD x then I could DO y, then I would BE z." Ayn Rand said that no man may be smaller than his money. (Please, no gender comments! Let it alone for a minute, OK?). She was trying to point out that who we are determines what we do and that leads to what we have.
If you want to have a different life then you must do different things. In order to do different things you must change who you are. Be different, act different, have different.
Your future is how you imagine it
Successful people from all walks of life have (at least) one thing in common: they actively visualize the results they seek. This is how to change yourself internally (BE).Pick one thing you want to be different about yourself. Now, imagine that change having already taken place. See yourself acting differently, feeling differently, in as much detail as you can manage. It may be strange at first, and that's OK.
Do this at least once a day when it works best for you. Some things are better in the morning because they will keep you awake with the energy the images induce but its up to you.
Do this every day for 60 days. Within a couple of days you will begin to feel the urge to do the thing you imagined. Then every day it will come easier to you. Long before the 60 days are up, the new way of being will seem like it has always been a part of you.
Because you changed yourself internally you get the new behavior for free, without forcing. You cannot impose on yourself a behavior you don't believe in. Daily visualization can change what you believe about yourself.